There are many things that I thought would never appeal to Me that experimentation has proven are huge turn-ons for Me, and I suspect the same is true of most people. Not even "most people who are into BDSM"--most people. So yeah, when you start experimenting, you may find that there are things that turn you on that you never thought would turn you on. But then again, unless you are hopelessly shallow, as you go through life you'll probably discover new things that turn you on even if you don't get involved with BDSM. As a Dominatrix, the pleasure comes from constructing a scenario and acting it out. I can, at least within reason, determine the submissive's fate; I'm the scriptwriter, director, and producer of the entire show; I construct the fantasy world and make it real. Being a good dominant is a lot of work. In many ways, the Dominatrix is a facilitator; her job is to make a fantasy that takes the submissive wherever he or she wants to go, and bring that fantasy to life. For many people, BDSM is an intensely personal and meaningful experience, from either side.I am into BDSM because I want more. I want more experience, I want more intensity; I want to feel more, think more, experience more, be more. I want to live life in immoderation, not moderation; I want to experience intensity because I want to live intensely. People surrender to Me because they want to be taken to that place where reason and thought disappears, where the world folds up flat and spins away into its own corner and there's nothing left but what they're feeling. I take control of another because I want to take them to that place--because when I become the orchestrator and the director of their world, when I can set the stage and write the script and make them, for a little while, become someone else, somewhere else, then I can feel what it is to wake the sleeping lion--and that is a powerful intense rush, and very satisfying, even if there is no orgasm involved. So that's what I do, and I do it well, not because of who I am, but because of very good training, and a desire to learn not only BDSM, but the mind from the inside out of every submissive that trust Me to go inside their head. So when you're ready let Me know, and I'll force you to experience Forbidden Pleasures of the Flesh! (the mind is a terrible thing to waste) Mistress Cyrice To learn more about Me, read articles I've written, see pictures of sessions, etc. join My fan club. It's free http://tiptopwebsite.com/mstrscyrice look for the yahoo group link

A Dominatrix is concerned above all else with the needs and desires of the submissive. Now that's only the beginning, after that there's the use of more psychology, toys, techniques, etc. that take that erection and keep it right on the edge of orgasm for the full hour, or more depending on what is paid for, and how long you can hold it. I of course can usually tell, and will back off or use a technique to stop it right before it happens. See you're not allowed to orgasm until you ask for permission AND I grant it. It's all psychological, I know of course what you do and do not want to happen because it's been discussed ahead of time, and there's words so that if you thought you wanted something but then decided that you didn't like it, you could say, I bet Mistress made my bottom red. Red means stop, so I'd know that you no longer wanted that. It's a scene, roll play, but when you're in the middle of it, and adrenaline is pumping, and endorphins are being released, it is the most euphoric high, you've ever felt, and when you are on the edge of orgasm, and feel like you have to hold it or else! It makes the experience very intense. Plus men are used to doing all the work, whereas here you are restrained you cant do anything but lay there and feel, it's all done "against your will so to speak" So when I know that it's time I say,"OK go ahead and cum for Me, and I don't want you to stop until I've got every last drop. I want you to cum harder than you ever have before." Believe Me after all that build up, teasing and denying, being on the edge for so long, well you know whats it's like when you have to pee really bad and you hold it as long as you can. Doesn't it feel REALLY good to finally release it, and doesn't it seem like you pee longer than normally? Same thing, only much more pleasurable, because it's orgasm to the next level. It's just basically psychology, I get into your head, and your mind does the rest. It's just most men have never had that, they do all the work, and it's all physical, but think about it, what gets you to that point in the first place. You see a woman and immediately you think of all the things you would like to do to her, in detail, but how much of that is actually ever done, very little, either because physically you can't last that long, or you're afraid to try what you really want to do. So the mental image that plays in your mind never measures up to what really happens physically. In My world it does to a certain extent, and the mental imagery is encouraged and taken further, and enhances the physical act itself, and considering there's no actual sex involved, it's insanely intense. I've had people that were so wore out just from the orgasm itself, that they had to lay there for several minutes afterward. Now that's a whole new level when you consider they're not putting any work into it, they're just laying there. People are very, very complex creatures, and it's unrealistic to think that you know the whole truth about every aspect of yourself without ever having experimented with the things that turn you on. To learn more read pt. 4

It's the buildup that makes it so intense. Picture this: you come into the room, I'm standing there in a black low cut latex corset, that exposes My breast down to the nipple, a pair of black lace panties with a black net skirt over the top, black thigh high stockings, and knee high lace up 6 inch boots. So you can see pretty much everything except for what you really want to see! I have a riding crop in My hand, and I walk over to you, look you up and down, walk slowly around you, and when I'm behind you I lean up close to your ear, you can feel My breath against your neck, and I whisper in the most seductive voice you've ever heard,"So, have you been thinking about this moment a long time" you start to answer and realize that you're so nervous, wondering what I'm going to do to you, thinking about all the things you want Me to do to you, intoxicated by My perfume,and caught up in everything that's happening that you open your mouth to speak, but nothing comes out. you're embarrassed, and you just nod your head. I nibble on your ear lobe and lick the side of your neck, and then I lean in close and whisper," So did you have to grab your little dick and jerk on it when you thought about this moment" you manage to get out a No Mistress. I change My tone and command you to take off your pants, you do so as quickly as you can, letting them fall around your ankles. I smack you with the riding crop, it stings a bit, but nothing real bad, but the shock of it takes you back a bit, and makes you gasp. "you're lying" I yell, and then I smack you again. "How could you think of Me touching you and not have to jerk off" I say in a very matter of fact voice. "Why look at you now, you're dripping all over My floor" you look down and your cock is rock hard and precum is oozing from the tip making a small puddle on the floor in front of you. The lust,pain,need,humiliation, and pleading is all seen on your face, you're ashamed, and yet very turned on, as you stand there with your pants around your ankles, and your cock under My spell, waiting anxiously to see what I might command of you, or do to you, or make you feel, and you realize that you're breathing very heavy, and all of your senses are heightened, and you're not really scared, but well yes maybe a little scared, but in a good way. Like scared to do something because it's so different, or unknown, but you're enjoying it, even though you're embarrassed, it's still the most exhilarating thing you've ever felt. It is not about abuse, an abuser has no regard for the feelings, needs, or limits of the victim. A Dominatrix is concerned above all else with the needs and desires of the submissive. To learn more read pt. 3

The image of BDSM that is portrayed in many materials has about as much to do with BDSM as the child's tale "Jack and the Magic Beanstalk" has to do with agriculture. These materials show little more than women being used in various unoriginal ways for men's enjoyment, usually by force. The reality is that there are actually more male submissives than female submissives; and that BDSM is a mutual activity that is driven more by the needs of the submissive than by the needs of the dominant. Most people think it's sick, or the people wanting it are sick. The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors must cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning in order for sexual sadism or masochism to be considered a disorder. Which is just not the case with My customers or Myself, so there is nothing sick about it from a psychological or professional view. Now I can't speak on all BDSM relationships of course, and there are some out there that are not healthy, that's for sure, but this is what I do, and I am certain that from this particular Dominatrix view it is nothing like what you think it is, so let Me explain it to you in a way that is more understandable. Believe it or not, the dynamics of a BDSM relationship are often driven by the submissive, not by Me. The submissive sets the limits; the submissive decides what places can and can not be explored; the submissive has the ability to call a halt to the scene. It's My job to create a setting where the people involved can explore the submissive's fantasies. It's not just tying people up and having sex, and it's not just arbitrarily whipping people. What it is is a sort of role-playing, where the people involved are acting out a fantasy that involves taking or giving up power. Sex is often involved, in BDSM relationships, but not in what I do. Some see it as sexual because there is orgasm, but for Me it's psychological. You're exercising your imagination, and you're playing a game with the other person. You get to be the dominant; your partner is the submissive; you're playing the role of the mad scientist who's just kidnapped someone and is going to use this poor innocent person for evil experiments. Or whatever. (There are people who do this all the time--one always the dominant, one always the submissive--who will tell you it isn't a game, but that's part of the game.) At the same time, however, it is very serious. You're creating a framework that allows you to have fun and explore some very powerfully charged areas of human psychology, and push your boundaries at the same time. In this way, BDSM can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and exploration. It's the buildup that makes it so intense. To learn more read part 2