Pammi
Forever In Our Hearts
Apr 27, 2007
If Tears Could Build a Stairway
If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.
No farewell words were spoken
No time to say goodbye
You were gone before we knew it
And only God knows why.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten
We pledge to you today
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
-Author Unknown
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Remembering Benjiman
Apr 27, 2007
To all my dear friends that mean the world to me,
I cannot tell you how important you are to me.
I know each of us are missing those no longer with us.
Our angels
Whether they were with us for a minute or born sleeping or miscarried or for Mere Months or Mere Years
It was never nor will it ever have been long enough.
Our angels so sweet and so precious they are all in my prayers.
Never allow your loss to be minimized, never forget that your Angel was important as were your dreams hopes and wishes for your ANGEL !!!!!!!!
My Friends I am taking this time to thank you all for all that you have done for me.
Please remember how wonderful you are.
The reason for our meeting is heartbreaking but has brought us a gift in that we have a new family,
sisters and brothers in our hearts and yet our ties are as strong as if we were truly related to each of you.
I want you to know the value of your love is not something I can put into words for they would all come up very shy of how important you are to me.
Each of us who know the loss, the ache, the pain, the tremor of anguish in our lives because our angels have gone too soon are Survivors !!!!
Thank You for being in my life
Thank You for Loving and and Caring For Me
all of us each and every one of us are mom's and dad's
Never forget that!
I have found over the years that the words that hurt the most are the ones made by family members that if they see us hurt or see us cry how vulnerable they are to our pain!
So to keep from feeling badly they make comments like the ones you have all spoken of, those words are branded into our hearts and minds and make us hurt and long for our sweet angels all the more.
Each of us are Mom's and Dad's no amount of time will change that, no matter how others don't mention our angels or make it like they understand by asking the ever popular question how are you doing.
They dont want to hear the real answer to the question, they want to hear that you are doing well and that you have moved on and everything is right with our world because if they hear our truth of what lies in our hearts and minds then they are left open to our pain and in there minds if we say we are doing fine then by gosh that is wonderful and they dont have to walk on the proverbial egg shells that have become an intricate part of our lives.
Our pain, our loss is a reality for us no amount of small talk will ever erase our hurt but for us to give them those that will never know it is a solice for them to be able to act like our loss is not effecting us then they can cope with us better and themselves.
One last thing
TO ALL OF YOU :::
WE ARE AND WILL FOREVER BE MOMMIES And Daddies NO MATTER HOW MUCH TIME HAS GONE BY
" JUST BECAUSE YOU CANNOT SEE OR TOUCH OUR CHILDREN THAT DOES NOT ERASE THE FACT THAT WERE HERE NOR DOES IT CHANGE THE FACT THAT WE MISS THEM MORE WITH EACH PASSING DAY MENTION OUR CHILDREN FOR IN NOT SAYING OUR ANGELS NAME DOES NOT MEAN THEY WERE NEVER THERE
Luv and hugs to all the mommies and daddies that have walked the path of letting go of an angel.
If ever you need a friend I am forever an e-mail away.
When links of life are broken, And a Child has to part,
There is nothing that will ever heal, A parents broken heart.
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My Son Benjiman
Apr 27, 2007
Dear Mom's And Dad's
My name is Pammi and my angel Will Be 21 this June.
I can relate to the crushing pain that you are talking about. I remember very clearly the pain that crushed my heart after Benjiman died.
I remember the whispers and the glances that well meaning family members and friends would give me.
I remember all the "it was for the best" I remember that they told me I needed to be grateful (of all things) that he did not suffer long, that even my own mother said, "well hon except for the grace of god you never need to have cope with a child who would never be well."
The bitterness and resentment has been unbearable at times.
My mother and her words that she meant as comfort still sting and burn but now I want to say to all of you we are all mom's and dad's from the moment we concieved to the moment they were miscarried or born and left our arms to bloom in heaven!
All of us each and every one of us are all still Mommies and Daddies and nothing will ever change that.
It wont change in our hearts or our minds we will always have in our hearts that 30 seconds of wonderful in knowing that we were to become Mom's and Dad's
whether or not we have our babies beside us!
We Are Forever Parents no
matter where are beloved children are
Here or Heaven!
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