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Rockaway33's SoundClick blog - WHY DO WE WASTE OUR TIME CARING IN VEIN?

WHAT DO YOU SAY WHEN THERE IS NOTHING LEFT TO SAY? WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU CARE ABOUT SOMEONE AND THEY CHOOSE TO BE DISHONEST? WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE A SWITCH TO NOT FEEL GRIEF. HOW DO YOU REACH SOMEONE WHO CANNOT BE REACHED. WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO LEAVE? CAN A LEOPARD CHANGE IT'S SPOTS?

posted by Rockaway33 on Mon May 4, 2009 @ 02:32 PM 16 comments post a comment


	I know we all run across people that seem to have no heart, and soul. Despite the cold hard facts I go with my heart, and not my gut. I try to make a difference and show them a better way, because I have no capacity for hate. I do not have a switch to turn my feelings off, despite all that is thrown in my face. I feel so sorry for the people who hate themselves, and must live their lives, as a lie. They tear you down to make you feel small,because they are ignorant and immoral. So try as you might you fail to get through to these people. I feel so sad that someone I care about has no capacity for love only hatred, and what appears to be jealousy, which is a negative emotion. True friends stand by one another in mutuality. I have no enemies, and I see through the eyes of an innocent child, so it is very hard to understand someone who is mean, and malicious. I am learning the hard way that when people show you who they are you should believe them, as much as you do not want to because love is the cure and good will always triumph over evil. Yes sometimes you must say goodbye because there is no other choice. I do forgive, and wish the perpetrator everything good in life. I just wish I could have made a difference. I give my all, only to lose in the end. However I am not really the loser, because someone had the chance to have a true friend, so in the end it is really their loss, and I am aware of this. I am learning There is no redemption for these types of people, and eventually they will self destruct. Sad but true. The power of love will always be stronger than the power of hate. Wisdom seeks it's rightful place....Lisa

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Mon May 4, 2009 @ 03:34 PM

	I've been on the receiving end of the kind of negativity you speak about on a number of occasions. Each time it has been unprovoked and in some cases I did not even know the perpetrator. Other times it has been from those I have mistakenly trusted. No, a leopard doesn't change it's spots - I've learned that fact through some very tough experiences. It would also not be right for me to try and change someone who does not want to be changed - I should be able to live my life, and they should be able to live theirs. The answer, in my opinion, is to see other people clearly, understand their motives, and if you do not hold any common ground, then simply walk away without animosity. If they over-step the law, then the law must punish them. If they over-step your own emotional boundaries, then move on and leave the situation behind. Is love stronger than hate? From what I've witnessed, it depends on the situation and what drives an individual. Evil and good? We each have the capacity within us for both - the battle is most often an inner war, sometimes of triumph, sometimes of defeat - that's what makes us human. Very few of us can claim to be 100% good or evil.

	:: posted by rodrica on Mon May 4, 2009 @ 04:53 PM

	Thank you Rodz, I just feel so depressed, oppressed, confused and sadness, has a grip on me. It is true that no person is perfect, but I can say in 100% honesty, I do not have the capacity to hate. It is more disappointment, and hurt that I am feeling. I seem to be a really bad of judge character and when I see someone in need, I try to fix them. I know how wrong this part of me is, because I cannot fix anyone, and sometimes a piece of me dies trying. I am in a very morose state of mind, and all I seem to do is wonder why I could not make a difference. Right now I am just too sad for words...Lisa

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Mon May 4, 2009 @ 05:24 PM

	Have you tried allowing yourself to hate just for a little while? It's not hating that causes the trouble...it's how you deal with it. If you allow yourself to feel angry, it doesn't make you a bad person. It's only bad if you cause distress to others by feeling that way or by reacting destructively. By denying yourself a period of anger you may just be turning it in on yourself...and that's what makes you sad. Let it out girl! Express your feelings (however unreasonable or crazy they may be). You ARE allowed to feel hurt ya know! Not everyone loves us...disappointing though it is, we have to accept it. I've often been disliked, just because of the way I look! Did that upset me? Very much - we all want to be liked and to get along with other people. Sometimes it's just not to be. So I go away, lick my wounds and count my blessings for the people around me that are my true friends. Trust me...I've been there - you will destroy yourself by trying to reach out to someone who doesn't want to meet you half way. Don't die for the person who has no time for you (let them go their own way)...live for the people who love you and support you Just look at all the positive comments on your pages...that should tell you something!

	:: posted by rodrica on Mon May 4, 2009 @ 05:51 PM

	Lisa, hey sisterwoman! Came to hear some rockaway tunes and check the blog and now a new one...another blog of questions, only this one is sad, sorry you are carrying a heavy load right now, you need to remedy that, you are getting some really good advice from Rodrica, and you already know how many buds care about you, so if you lost one person, who was a battle it sounds like? It was one person, let it go girl, deal with the now, feel it, learn from it, cause you know Lisa, that is why it all happened anyway....it was a lesson for you, so learn from it and move on That's what it's all about, life lessons. You know it was just before Easter, when this cool person gave me some good advice...I just had a monster knife plunged into my back, major can of hell was opened on me and a small handful of people were involved, but my own blood, my sister had really done me over wickedly...anyhow this cool person wrote a song recently...called "Closure" I heard it and said, wow I relate to this bigtime, needed to hear it....this chic said about my problem..."Keep on Truckin" hadn't heard that saying in years..but it was so true... don't let the hater...liar...whatever it is Lisa, don't let them win....YOU..."Keep on Truckin"

	:: posted by strummergurl on Tue May 5, 2009 @ 04:31 AM

	As far as can a leopard change it's spots? I suppose not, but I can honestly say I have seen a person change, dramatically, and I never used to think a person could change. Lies, are my no. 1 pet peeve, I have no time for it now, too many people lie, and you Lisa, are not the first person to be a terrible judge of character, infact I thought I held first position on that yet? I used to have a huge heart...till it got stepped on and abused a few dozen times...here to say you will learn from it eventually, I'm not dead yet, and I finally learned...I have to protect "myself", got a thicker skin...not as trusting, people usually have to prove themself to me a bit. Don't let someone run you over now girl, keep your pride and wisdom, and give good judgement to someone who deserves it! Do some fun things for you tomorrow, cut loose and get rid of this darkness Lisa and don't let it consume you! ok?! Hugs and take care! ~strummergurl~

	:: posted by strummergurl on Tue May 5, 2009 @ 04:43 AM

	Yes, my dear caring friends, there will always be racist pigs, who have no integrity. Personally, I feel People that are prejudice, are very scary. I believe that each one of us is born innocent, however hatred is taught to them. I feel sad for these skin head types, of people. They are pure trash, and the wicked shall perish. Like it or not GOD does exist, and watches in the wings and hears every thought. I am blessed to have beautiful friends, that do love me far and near. I have met many people who live there lives in a delusional state of being, only because they are inferior. They lie about all aspects of who they are, because deep down they are worthless, and hate themselves so much that they become what is called a sociopath. What this means is they have no real feeling for anything, or anyone, and walk with vagrant hearts. They create an illusion to ease the pain of the mental illness, and demonic presence that surrounds them. Some of these people are so sick, they actually believe their own lies. However what they do not know is the pawns in there game catch on quickly, and they let these insane people dig their own grave to hell. Love and tolerance, are what counts at all. Some live for greed and selfishness, because they have no real identity. They own all the negative emotions of hatred, greed, jealousy, intolerance, malice, judgement, lies, deception, self loathing, immorality, inferiority, ignorance, shameless, degraded bitter bigots. Yes we have all met these sad people, and all we can do is pray, that somehow they learn the true path of life. I really do not think they have much of a chance, though because, they truly are deaf, dumb and blind...Lisa

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Tue May 5, 2009 @ 12:52 PM

	Hi Lisa, I have been there done that. Understand about people like that. It hurts when you misplace your trust and affection, only to have it either thrown back in your face, or worse yet used against you and watch the other person gain for themselves at your expense. You can only try to make a differance in those people's lives, but at some point you must step back and let them go. Because you can't change people like that, they must either change themselves or at some point in their lives, self destruct. You can only change yourself. And as I stated in my song, "Knowing", it's about knowing when it's time to let go Let go of the hurt and just be a friend.

	:: posted by mountainmama025 on Tue May 5, 2009 @ 02:58 PM

	Hi Baby Lisa, The devil or Kal has it's place and purpose in the worlds and that is to keep souls toiling in the lower conciousness. It's up to us to rise above the morass and not let the bastards drag us down to their level. You're very caring and sweet, so you're a target, but I know you're also strong. Leave the liars and haters to their hells and keep your sweet self in the positive. For me, when something so strong shakes me up, I put it down in song and (eventually) move past it. That's my therapy and those songs seem to write themselves . Remember, those that are your true friends will never be waived by the deceptive snakes. We love you!

	:: posted by slydersong on Wed May 6, 2009 @ 01:54 AM

	I had a best friend who was like a father to me, and a shining example, of how to live. poppa Al went blind at 86yrs old, and took it in stride, with not a complaint. He started to go to a school for the blind, and became an outstanding artist, painting pastel pictures, which he had never done before. Can you teach an old dog a new trick? My answer would have to be yes. I met Al because I played music with his son Wayne, who is still close by. Al passed away at 93yrs, of age. I was lucky to have him for 25 years, and he truly, was remarkable. He always loved me when I was good, or misbehaving, as kids, sometimes do, but never judged me and always believed in me. When ever I needed a true friend he was always there to guide me. He used to tell me, when something in my life went wrong, "What are you worried about kid? In a hundred years, it won't matter". He had many close calls with age related problems and he died a few times, but the doctors got him going. This man always had a smile on his face, and never complained. He was a great conversationalist. He was always interested to hear how my job was going, how my music was going. Wayne and I would play music in the house and he would come to that end of the house to listen, with joy. When he passed away september of 2004. I cried because I was being selfish. Every night at 7pm, on the dot, he would phone me, or I would go visit, during the day, as I was a free agent working as a financial planner through insurance products, as a broker, licensed with 50 different companies, and the goal was to empower people with knowledge and protect, and maximize their financial status. I was very blessed in my abilities, through honest practices, by putting my clients well being first, rather than my commission. Therefore I could work as much or as little as I wanted. I would frequently play hooky, and spend the day with poppa Al. It was always more fun, and he taught me, how people should be.

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Thu May 7, 2009 @ 09:53 PM

	continued:part 2) I myself started attending churches to learn, and what I learned was these people dressed in their Sunday best were the most judgemental hypocrites, I had ever in my life encountered. My automobile mechanic befriended me, so I went to church with he, and his wife. The man would lie about what needed to be fixed on an automobile,just to jack the bill up. I saw this first hand. No wonder he was crying in church on Sunday's. The rest of his week he blatently ripped trusting people off. The man had no integrity. I do believe people can change. That is what the term "BORN AGAIN", Christian means. I do believe in miracles, because I am one! My goal here is to spread the good news. The power of prayer is so strong, and really does work for me, and so that is what I am up to. I also believe in angels, and I am moved by spirit and love.Yes a Leapord can change it's spots. We do not hold the power to change another person, but the Power of God can, so pray for the ones that need his love and mercy and I am earnestly praying for a miracle, because my faith is strong, and I simply will never give up, on trying to reap what I sow. I am sowing the seeds, in hope that they will grow. I'm a believer, and no person can shake me down!

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Thu May 7, 2009 @ 10:19 PM

	WE DO NOT waste our time caring in vein !!! Do you not believe that everything under heaven has a reason for happening. God could tell you what would happen, but would we learn anything at all ? I say nay. We are to forgive 7 X 70, do you recall what our savior has said ? Yes, sorrow will come, only to then be able to feel joy, that much more, when it comes. To reach someone who cannot be reached may be going against the free will of another or even changing the chance for that person to learn something they may not learn otherwise. You can stay where you refuse to leave, but the sorrow will only become stronger with time and you may miss the chance of any opportunity that may come and go by being elsewhere. No, a leopard can not change it's spots, unless his or her owner has really good paint. (By their fruits ye shall know them) P.S. You must care for yourself and all of your needs before you can even attempt to care for anyone else and/or their needs.

	:: posted by Star Blue on Sun May 10, 2009 @ 11:43 AM

	Loved hearing about Poppa Al, thank you. Simple advice from a simple person....We are only responsible for our own feelings and actions. Much too complicated to dwell upon the complex thoughts and actions of others. Life is fleeting, very important to first and foremost be kind to thyself, try hard to think kind and happy thoughts. I know life isn't all puppy-dogs and butterflys but sometimes it helps to think that way.

	:: posted by vmp 07 on Wed May 13, 2009 @ 09:34 AM

	Well it has been well thought out folks and, my take on the subject is a Leopard does not change it's spots, and love is not enough ever to help open eyes that are shut. Their will always be misfits who must keep lying, because really they are miserable and lonely. Only god can change these evil types, but at least we try kindness, in face of the knowledge. I hate the sin, yet I love the sinner..Lisa...

	:: posted by Rockaway33 on Tue Jul 7, 2009 @ 07:37 PM

	Beaming from ear to ear, reading close & near...sweet nectar my dears xo

	:: posted by slydersong on Mon Oct 19, 2009 @ 02:51 AM

	Thank you, Lisa, for your profound and heart-felt words for my music. I appreciate your sensibilities and love your musical style and elegance. Music and magic, Aynne xo

	:: posted by Aynne Pryce on Fri Dec 4, 2009 @ 11:53 AM

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